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You know, I think you're probably right. He claims she's his 2nd love though, and his first love was pretty brutal from what he's told me. So, I don't know if it'll help or not if V is brutal to him. It sounds like she's thinking of cutting off all contact with him for a while though, which I think is probably going to be better for them both in the long run. It'll make it a lot easier to get over the pain faster.

I don't put a lot of stock into his claim that he's in love with her though. From what I know of the situation, I don't think he knows her well enough to be in love with him. Maybe he loves the idea of her. I just don't put a lot of stock into the whole "unrequited love" thing, y'know? And it was unrequited for a loooong time. They've been on and off for 6 weeks or so? That's not enough time to fall in love with someone, in my opinion.

Nah, people are annoying for the most part, but those you match well with are worth all the trouble.

You can always go gay then

Not that that makes life any easier.

I think if you said that all women were crazy, that would be one thing. You aren't quite on the sexist train yet.

So, I spent a few hours before and after my performance tonight, hanging out with S trying to help cheer him up. After the performance, I brought him over here and we watched some Eddie Izzard, and then The Producers. Ended up flirting back and forth a lot, gave each other massages, and then one thing led to another... I need to learn some better self control. >.< When I dropped him back off at his place, I suggested that we spend a few days thinking about what tonight meant to us, and then talk about it later. 'Cause right now I have no freaking clue what I want to do with myself and with him.

I don't see a relationship with him as being a long term thing, but I feel drawn towards him, like I am meant to help him. Maybe help him by teaching him how to be in an adult relationship, how to love himself, etc. The thing I'm worried about though, is that he's going to change his focus from V to me, and I don't want to be the reason that he makes a bunch of changes, and grows into a better person. I want him to do it for him. I also don't want him projecting her onto me either. Does that make any sort of sense? What do you guys think? >.>

I think you're just horny.





Oversimplification, of course, but if you were living up in Eugene you probably wouldn't be so drawn to him.

Take a step back and think about this. Unless he himself specifically asks for help, you should not go out helping him and that potential you see may very well be something entirely different from what he sees.

Please don't go into a relationship with him thinking you'll "help" him. That's pretty much pity sex and it seems like more than anything he needs to get some self confidence. If you want to be with him, do so but do it for who he is right now, not for any potential you see in him or not.

Also, I know the horny line was a bit of a cheap shot but to me it honestly does sound like you are missing intimacy with someone and that your decisions may be based on that more than you think they are.

I don't think that this is a healthy way to approach a relationship.

In my personal experience, my last girlfriend was five years younger than me; a lot less experienced was an understatement in our case.

Relationships should be about a meeting of equals. Give and take. If you're just helping him grow and see him as just someone you're helping, that's not very healthy.

It's very possibly hard to hear, but I think that you're attempting to rationalize your feelings, and you're being biased so that you feel like you're justified in continuing whatever you have going with him.

People generally don't grow through someone holding their hand and walking them through a relationship. It's more like trying to find a light switch in a completely dark room. You feel around in the dark and as you feel around, you discover where the light switch isn't. By doing that, you eventually find the light switch. Having someone take you by the hand and putting it on the light switch isn't going to help you find the light switch the next time.

That's my experience, anyway. I've dated a lot of girls, and I've still not really figured out what exactly I'm looking for.

Back to Deadpool - found this today :)

Yarr me hearties!

Pirates are cool.

Also, I'm getting abs. I started working out about 6 weeks ago and the fat is being magically transformed a little bit! Not all of it, unfortunately...

Well, you lose fat and gain muscle (and weight) so it's close enough even if it's not scientifically accurate.

Grats on the six-pack, Kali.

Pedo has been filtered for a while, people know what you mean though.

Also, I don't give a rats ass about football so this doesn't mean much to me :P


Edit: Capitalizing @#%^ makes it not filter? wut?

Edited, Jul 23rd 2012 9:30pm by Aethien

cynyck, I believe 'pedo' was filtered due to something that happened in The Asylum, not because the word itself was bad.

I get that, and I'm not trying to turn this into a discussion of college football. There's something bigger going on here. College football has gotten so big, that it takes over at some of the bigger universities here. For instance, with respect to the 60 million dollar fine imposed on Penn State:


That's a lot of cash, and it explains why a few years back, when Joe Paterno was asked to retire by the University Board, he threw them out of his facility. Imagine? They tried to fire him and he said "get out."

There's something wrong when a coach basically answers to no one. But when your program is grossing 60 mil you get away with stuff. Like deciding that it would be better to treat the child molester "humanely" and ignore the victims, by sweeping it all under the rug, than to protect innocent children. I may be a bit idealistic, or I may even be a bit biased since my adopted daughter was molested - when she was two years old and in the New York City foster care system. But kids can't protect themselves and when things like this happen to them, it changes them forever. And when I hear things like I've heard about this Sandusky incident, I really do feel like I've fallen through the rabbit hole.

As a (now former) coach, it's extremely reasonable for the whole program to get punished.

Every single coach when they take on the responsibility of teaching and coaching young people has a responsibility for the safety of those children first and foremost. If you're the leader of a program, you have even more of a responsibility.

Beyond that, the entire program has a responsibility to oversee the coaches and make sure they're being responsible.

I know people always say that the punishments are too harsh on the program, but people don't seem to realize that this is an example being made. You think this kind of thing hasn't gone on in other programs across the country? This is the NCAA telling every single college, "listen, don't even think about @#%^ing with us. We will tear your program apart."

Because this kind of thing is abominable. Completely and 100% abominable. Anyone defending any person at Penn State involved in their football program is an idiot. Paterno covered this sh*t up for a DECADE or more. There were plenty of other people in the program that knew about this and just because Paterno said to cover it up, they did.

The whole program should be banned from competing for at least a decade, if you ask me.

I won't apologize for the strong language and wording of this post. I've been in the athletic system both as a player and as a coach, and this kind of sh*t makes me absolutely furious.

because it's played on feet rather then on horses. duh

I agree with Tails. Punish every single bastard responsible for covering it up, but taking away their past victories only punishes the players and students. Collective punishment is not cool.

Did you make them?

I do, but I don't bake. Ever.

Mainly watch the above show because Rosanna, the hostess, is cute and has lots of YouTube celebrities as guests. I'm a bit of a geek when it comes to that.

Console exclusive.

Damn you, Activision. Damn you!

Ugh, yesterday I went to this graduation party where students gave speeches about their classes.

This girl came on stage and talked about her history class and how she admired Quaid-e-Azam (nothing to say against that) and also Hitler for his persuasive skills and "having an ideology". South Asia is weird when it comes to that.

I know they might actually have to go to class and get an education instead of riding by on a football scholarship and leaving school barely literate and not making the pros.

I'd support this on a more general basis as well. Also, I'm all for athletic scholarships, but there's got to be some limit to it all. It's a University, not a minor-league football (or whatever) program, or something.