Boys are stupid... last Sunday my FWB guy tells me that he wants to call things off for a few months at least, because he feels like he needs to spend some time being fully single to think about things. After a few days, I prod him about and get him to tell me that basically he's not sure if he can handle the whole poly thing and he needs some time to think about it. I told him I understand, and when he figures things out to let me know, and that yes I still want to be friends. I also offered to him as a possibility, that if he were okay with just sharing me with John, I would consider dating just him and John and having no casual or secondary relationships. And to let me know if that was something he could do, and I'd think about whether or not I could do it.
Then this last weekend he goes and spends the weekend with the other girl that he's interested in, who broke things off with him when he told her about me. Now that I'm out of the picture, she decided she's interested in him again, but she doesn't want a full relationship, just a sort of one where they go out on dates but don't do anything sexual and don't call it a relationship. I'm so freaking pissed right now. I'm mad at him, because I had to ask him if anything happened. He said he wanted to tell me in person, which is why he hadn't said anything Monday when I was talking to him on facebook then. I'll give him props for that, but it still irritates me that I had to ask. I really feel like she's stringing him along for the attention. John told me that she has a reputation of doing that, that before he met me he considered going after her until he found out that, and then he decided against it. He's liked her for two years, and just recently, right around the time that I meet him and get interested, she does too. I could tell as soon as I got to know him, that he was an awesome guy, but apparently it took her dumb ass two years to notice.
I'm also ticked at him for telling me that he needed to be single for a while, and then the second he gets the opportunity, he decides to make things quasi-official with her. He understands me being upset about that, but I'm not quite sure he understands how it makes me feel. I told him last week that I'd be willing to take him back after he'd had some time to think, and when we talked about my suggestion of me just being with him and John, he asked if that offer would still stand if he dated this other girl for a while and it didn't work out. I told him that it would depend on the timing. If i was still living down here, that'd be a possibility, but if I was up in Eugene already, I couldn't say for sure. Now I don't know what to think as far as that's concerned. I think at this point, I'm just going to give up him and when he does realize that she's stringing him along for the attention, I'll figure things out then.
Sorry for the novel guys, I needed to rant. >.<
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