Have you ever just had it with RL?Follow

Well sometimes I just want to god damn it.

Background

I just broke up with my cheating boyfriend.

My best friend is whining to me about his body, despite not going to the gym all week.

My other friends want to go out tonight, and keep nagging at me to come. I. said. I. Was. Tired.

My family have taken up the habit of ringing me up to "check how I am" for no apparent reason.

My gym parter wants me to go and work out, even though I already went by myself this morning because we didn't make any plans to go today.

My flatmates want help cooking something that will most likely poison me.

Mass ringing and text messaging enuses.

So I got home, flicked my phone on silent, locked the door and thought "to hell with this". I switched on FFXI, put a LS party together and am just having a blast whilst ignoring the phone that is subtly vibrating in the background, like one of those toddlers that asks "wwwwwhhhhhyy" after every blasted thing you say.

Bugger off.

Next week I will probably eat my words when nobody wants to talk to me, but right now nothing seems better than to just give the world a big middle finger and just play some FFXI.

Discuss and share similar stories.

Look on the bright side mikey... things could be worse.

For example... you could be that dumb cat in your avatar. Keeps walking into the same plastic-covered door over and over again. Now THATS a tough life D:

I'd say go outside, but that BALL OF FIRE that orbits our planet is out AGAIN.

That naïveté is really touching.
Let's look at the OP's "friends" a little closer.


This best friend might actually care for the OP, but it doesn't show here. Today, he's just interested in a complacent ear because he wants to talk about himself. And complain about something that only he can fix.


Real friends acknowledge and respect other people's choices and reasons. Today, they are not respecting the OP. They want him to go out because it would be fun for them. Not for him.


This one's tricky, because family's sacred to a lot of people. But the truth is, most of the time, family members who "check how you are" regularly do not do it out of love for you. Worst case, they do it because they want to have control over your life; best case, they do it so they appease their own conscience and their own fears. In any case: they never wonder if their behaviour is uncomfortable for you. It's just about themselves.


No plans, everything is fair game. The OP already went to the gym. His partner could be "okay, fair enough, let's do this another day". But no, he wants to go to the gym. For himself. No concern for the OP here.


The OP is probably a bit unfair towards his flatmates. I mean, it could be worse: I could be doing the cooking.
Still, they are asking for help. They are not offering help or care to the OP. Again, they're in a selfish mode.

OP, it's in those moments that you realize that most people aren't reliable, and don't really care for you. It's now that you can sort your real friends from the fake ones; people who respect you from people who don't.
And it's perfectly all right to send them all to hell and live in isolation for some time. Take all the off time you need until you're ready to come out of your shell again.
And if people won't talk to you anymore because you let them down a couple days, then you're in serious need of better friends.
It's your job to educate people you meet, to teach them what you can accept and what you don't. It's your job to make them respect you. And if they won't agree to your rules, you're better off without them.

To go through a personal crisis is a good, healthy thing. It's a sign you need to check what's really important for you and maybe change your life priorities.

I can assure you that the concept of marriage definitely exists.

I can't decide what's funnier, the joke or the fact that the sun doesn't orbit Earth.

There was a time that you would have been called a witch and stoned to death for such blasphamey Pikko.

If the creationists have their way, that time will come again!

Bwahahaha...beware science lovers!

You guys will back me up though right? I don't want to be burned.

repent and you shall be saved.

:^/

What I was trying emphasise in my OP was that while most people talk about "addiction" and "fat losers in their mothers basement", it's ok to get sucked into a game sometimes and just chill out.

I wasn't trying to make out that my "problems" were god awful and the end of the world, sorry RattyBatty. I was just focusing in on "sometimes you just want to play some FFXI and forget about stuff in RL". But I can see your point about putting things into perspective. I'm not perfect as I'm sure nobody is, sometimes it's easy to forget.

CyrUrgit, I wasn't taking those that care for me for granted. Sometimes you just want to be alone, and don't want to have to deal with other people, even if they do have good intentions. Playing FFXI is like an escape, which is the point of my post.

Tanid, I think you should become a counsellor or a psychiatrist, that was absolutely brilliant! I think you described my feelings perfectly. As a matter of fact after a great session with my linkshell I'm feeling much more human, and calm. Thank you for the sentiments.

Mikey, it's okay to put RL behind you from time to time. People need to destress, and killing orcs and gobs does it for some people, like us.

I do hope you feel better :) We're here to help.

Sometimes i just want to hide the car in someones else's driveway
Walk home and lock the doors
unplug the phone
leave messenger's and emails off
log onto FFXI and go invisible mode and unequip LS
Go to Campaign Battles
Take my pants off, get my rubber ducky and zone out on FFXI
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But what really happens...

Someone will see me walking home and ask if they want to do something
People will be knocking at my door (damn church people)
Someone will be in the hospital and need to leave the phone on, so 10 telemarketer per hour and bill collectors
Logging into FFXI, someone with quick fingers will see i have logged in, tells the LS and asks why i'm not logged on
Can't chill out in Campaign Battles cause LS wants to do something
Can't take my pants off cause the kids are home for Summer Break
And the dog chewed up my rubber ducky

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And to add on... the mother inlaw and wife wants us all to go out to eat *insert face to keyboard*


Edited, Jun 19th 2009 5:13pm by Slackage

All this talk of witches and burning with no Monty Python references?

Nice try.

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Well, although I live in the northeastern USA, I am currently in Singapore for what was supposed to be a reasonable amount of time.

However, apparently I came in contact with someone who had H1N1 (Swine Flu), and so a couple of security police came to my hotel with a van and took me away to a quarantine facility, where I have been in solitary confinement isolation, and will be for several more days (luckily they provided me with a Starhub USB wireless modem and an internet access account).

So, yeah, Vana'diel looks QUITE a bit better than RL for me these days.

Woodcrafting  103 + 7 + Ensorcellment + Lumberjack 
Cooking       101 + 7 
Clothcrafting 82  + 2 
Goldsmithing  60  + 1 
Blacksmithing 65 
Leathercraft  60 
Boneworking   60 
Alchemy       62 
 
 
Fishing       84 

I often wish I could quit IRL and play FFXI full time. Then I have dreams that Vana'diel is a real place and areas like Bastok Markets are portrayed in the dream realm as a much larger place made up of actual matter instead of digital bits.

Since I couldn't sig, I did the next best thing. Good writing. :)

I sure hope not. It has been proven the earth is indeed flat.

http://www.alaska.net/~clund/e_djublonskopf/Flatearthsociety.htm



So, go ahead, carry on down the rabbit hole..





These are modern day "scientists". I rest my case.

Edited, Jun 21st 2009 2:42pm by VawnLakshmi

Make a giant rice effigy of yourself befit for a bento and it should fool them. Logic is not witch-hunters' strong suit.

It's okay Pikko. You'll most likely drown during the Trial by Water.

Edited, Jun 22nd 2009 6:03am by Nilatai

I giggled at the name of this thread XD.

There's no escaping it; just live with it, and look at the positive sides of life.

At least you have a family, have enough bucks to pay FFXI fee and internet fee, have somewhere to play FFXI, have a best friend, have at least had a boyfriend, etc. etc. etc.!

Everyone has to live with it, EVERYONE!

I think the real blasphemy might be that he is assuming Pikko doesn't have any supernatural powers.

Quoted for truth. It's a jerk thing to do to tell someone to "suck it up" when they have problems, because your own problems are somehow "more important". And this coming from someone who has friends repeatedly saying "I shouldn't whine about my little problems, I know what you've had to go through has been way way worse"... and guess what? I always tell them to talk about it, talking about it does make it better, even if by only a little bit. I'm no saint though, after all these years I've more or less gotten the attitude that go to hell with your sympathy. What is, is, and it's not gonna get better no matter how many times I hear "oh poor you". At least let me pretend I have a normal life. >.>

Ahem... sorry for the off-topic rant. As for topic, the latest time with RL I just had it was after very stressful school week (exam and having to submit a big programming project) and then working three days at a job I hadn't been trained for at all (the gist of instructions was "answer the phone and tell everyone to call again on Monday", that makes some very pissed off people), while having to take care of household chores and cooking dinner, with my brother lazying around the house and making a mess all day, while we were supposed to have the policy that who has the most free time does the chores (that had been me for the past 8 months). And top that off with 2 weeks of organizing HIS graduation party when he wasn't doing anything for it (invitations didn't leave till 5 days before party). So after the party, I ended up yelling at the rest of family that I want my computer space right this second, and just sat there playing for 2 days straight (with a small break to pack my bags since I was leaving 3 days later).

I did feel a whole lot better after that. :)