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#1 Feb 12 2013 at 1:51 PM Rating: Excellent
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Hello FFXI people.

First off, this isn't Shade, it is her husband. While I have played as Shade on occasion (and yes, I did have fun once I figured out all the F keys), she is the one that just absolutely loves this game and was the one behind the keyboard the vast majority of the time. She would sit there and research different enemies and areas, make notes then log on to test her efforts. She really had a mission. And she would sit here and talk with me of the good folks she met and played with just like they were friends up the street. She really loves FFXI. And you know the saying, if she's happy everyone's happy. I was more than willing to tolerate because God knows she put up with me.

She's in trouble right now and we're asking for help. Those of you that know her in the game have probably noticed that she hasn't been logged on for quite some time now. I can tell you she misses all of you and the camaraderie, but she has bigger problems right now.

She went in for what we thought was gall stones and our lives changed. After being taken by ambulance from here in the Florida keys to Baptist hospital in Miami and spending a week there, we found out that she has inoperable pancreatic cancer so advanced that her liver is also seriously affected. There's more stemming from this, but that's enough. Since then trips to oncologists and ER and resting between has been her routine. Her current prognosis is not good, so we are asking this of everyone we know, and that extends to you.

If you believe in God, (or a higher being of your choice), would you please include her in your prayers. If you do not, please think of her with positive thoughts. Her RL name is Cindy. We can surely use all the help we can get.

She also asked that each and everyone of you get an annual checkup irregardless of how you are feeling. She was the epitome of health at 56 years old(yes, we are both really old school gamers, we met back in the days where pinball was the game of choice). She ate right, fast walked 5 miles practically every morning, did her wii Fit and hasn't had even so much as a cold in 3-4 years. Literally she was in perfect health (other than being almost totally deaf) felt great and had not a clue of what was happening inside her. A delay of one of her checkups by several months resulted in this not being caught when there were still options for treatment. The doctors think she has had this for about a year.
Please don't let it happen to you, life is truly fragile and precious.
Thank you all.

PS, She wanted to say hi Mrs. Catwho



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#2 Feb 12 2013 at 1:54 PM Rating: Excellent
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Nobody ever sees the bullet with their name on it. My condolences and best wishes.
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#3 Feb 12 2013 at 2:01 PM Rating: Excellent
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Oh no..right now I'm kinda in a family crisis myself. I haven't mentioned this other than asking for some funny anime on bg but..

My mom also might have colon cancer but the hospital has been giving us the runaround; if they recommend surgery today she's switching to another hospital. I'll add your wife to my prayers however.

Also for those that aren't religious, consider buying a cancer bracelet. or sending virtual hugs. I've been considering buying a cancer support bracelet (even tho I AM religious) since the doctors at Douglas General chose to scare the crap out of Mom and my brothers by saying, "It's cancer, and this is fatal" even tho they hadn't done the biopsy yet. Since I knit, I made her a cancer cap out of cotton yarn; the pattern's "Waves of Hope".

Edited, Feb 12th 2013 3:04pm by maryadavies
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I'm sorry to hear that, best wishes Cindy.
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#6 Feb 12 2013 at 4:04 PM Rating: Excellent
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Let her know Laverda (Martyn in RL) is thinking of her.

Some of my best times in FFXI have been doing events with Shade. Her research, her knowledge, her ability to think on her feet, she's a member of that rare club of people who command absolute respect. An event with Shade along always goes well. She's a true delight to play with.

She's also one of the very few FFXI players who are older than I am -- but only barely. I just turned 55.
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My prayers for both Cindy, and your mom maryadavies.
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Give Shade my best regards and lots of hugs. I will keep her in my prayers.

Thank you for letting us know - Shade is beloved by many. I'll pass the word along to others in game.
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#9 Feb 12 2013 at 11:35 PM Rating: Excellent
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Shade was one of those people that I used to log on for everyday. No event was truly an event until she logged on. Cancer is a terrible thing. My mom is currently recovering from breast cancer for the second time. Tell her that Kenny says hi.
#10 Feb 13 2013 at 1:10 AM Rating: Excellent
My thoughts go out to you, her, and your family, as well as to you and your family Mary through these tough times.
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:(

We don't know each other, but I used to see her post around the forums a lot. It's a tragic thought, even being from the same community.

I will be taking your advice to heart. My dad died a few years ago at the age of 52 from cancer, and my grandpa on my dads side also died from a similar type of cancer. I'll try not to be too paranoid once I hit 45+, but I will definitely get annual check-ups.

Best wishes to the both of you

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#12 Feb 13 2013 at 9:52 AM Rating: Excellent
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just read your post and had to reply and say I wish you both the best of luck in the weeks to come, you keep strong for you Wife and she will draw strength from you, all our thoughts are with you.... Pheonix Server
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Prayers and positive energy on the way. I don't know Shade but something like this transcends all other matters. Likewise for you Mary. On a positive note it strengthens my spirit to see the willingness of the community to honor this small but important request. Hopefully all those affected can find some comfort in that fact that so many people care about the outcome. Hopefully next time you post it will be to tell us some good news.
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#14 Feb 13 2013 at 10:17 AM Rating: Excellent
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Op, don't know you or Cindy but you'll be in my prayers and I hope for a miracle for Cindy.
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My prayers are with you and your family.
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More prayers and positive thoughts coming at you.
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My oldest sister has been going through a cancer bout of her own. When it initially started causing problems, nobody could find anything wrong. It just happened to be a nurse that worked at her husband's mine looking over various results that the actual cause was pinned to a form of brain cancer. She's had a couple small operations and went through a round of chemo late last year, and we're basically in wait and see mode now. But basically the doctor who worked on her was surprised she'd survived and there are still a-hole docs here who won't see her whenever she has an issue, usually resulting in a 2 hour drive to Pittsburgh.

Stupid medical system is bad enough between costs and insurances, nevermind adding bad/lazy doctors to the mix.
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Potmonkey and Midges also send along well wishes and prayers for Shadechaos.
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#20 Feb 14 2013 at 1:17 PM Rating: Excellent
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Prayers for Cindy.
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#21 Feb 17 2013 at 7:22 PM Rating: Excellent
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I'm not a regular here in the forums and rarely post, but I'll lurk every few months or so.

However, ya couldn't stop me from posting my prayers on this thread to Cindy, who also shares my sister's name. I really hope you get better and I send all of my condolences and prayers to both you and Shade.

God bless.

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FifthElement is still alive - killed Ningishzida/Alfard for Clemmy yesterday.
And yes Shade, we miss you very much.
I wish you and your family all the best!!!
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Sorry to hear this. Fingers crossed and good vibes from Siren/New Orleans.
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My prayers are with you, will have positive thoughts coming your way.
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I wish her and you all the best. Don't take that bad prognosis to heart, because they can certainly be proven wrong. I hope it will be and she'll be with you for a long time to come.

Not to sidetrack, but your post makes me wonder what sorts of things might be going on with all the folks I've known who've vanished from the game over the years. I'm sure they're probably all fine, but it does make me think.
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#26 Feb 20 2013 at 1:03 PM Rating: Excellent
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I hope she's doing better not only physically but, mentally. Stress can take a toll on the heart and mind. So please take a breather, relax, spend time with those most important to you.

Get well soon!

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Thanks guys. As for a update on mom; we got the tests back, all they found was dead tissue and were inconclusive.

They just did a liver biopsy day before yesterday (Which i find kinda dumb; why go for the spots on her liver and not go for the ACTUAL problem, the baseball sized mass in her colon?) We should know the result of that by the end of the week. Here's to hoping!

Also by now, Mom wants to find the bb gun or the shotgun..to shoot the doctor with. I don't blame her after all this waiting..I mean it's taken a week for each test to get back, and she's living on yogurt and can't eat much. What is wrong with that doctor?!

Edited, Feb 20th 2013 4:01pm by maryadavies
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#28 Feb 24 2013 at 11:15 PM Rating: Good
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Hello FFXI people.

First off, this isn't Shade, it is her husband. While I have played as Shade on occasion (and yes, I did have fun once I figured out all the F keys), she is the one that just absolutely loves this game and was the one behind the keyboard the vast majority of the time. She would sit there and research different enemies and areas, make notes then log on to test her efforts. She really had a mission. And she would sit here and talk with me of the good folks she met and played with just like they were friends up the street. She really loves FFXI. And you know the saying, if she's happy everyone's happy. I was more than willing to tolerate because God knows she put up with me.

She's in trouble right now and we're asking for help. Those of you that know her in the game have probably noticed that she hasn't been logged on for quite some time now. I can tell you she misses all of you and the camaraderie, but she has bigger problems right now.

She went in for what we thought was gall stones and our lives changed. After being taken by ambulance from here in the Florida keys to Baptist hospital in Miami and spending a week there, we found out that she has inoperable pancreatic cancer so advanced that her liver is also seriously affected. There's more stemming from this, but that's enough. Since then trips to oncologists and ER and resting between has been her routine. Her current prognosis is not good, so we are asking this of everyone we know, and that extends to you.

If you believe in God, (or a higher being of your choice), would you please include her in your prayers. If you do not, please think of her with positive thoughts. Her RL name is Cindy. We can surely use all the help we can get.

She also asked that each and everyone of you get an annual checkup irregardless of how you are feeling. She was the epitome of health at 56 years old(yes, we are both really old school gamers, we met back in the days where pinball was the game of choice). She ate right, fast walked 5 miles practically every morning, did her wii Fit and hasn't had even so much as a cold in 3-4 years. Literally she was in perfect health (other than being almost totally deaf) felt great and had not a clue of what was happening inside her. A delay of one of her checkups by several months resulted in this not being caught when there were still options for treatment. The doctors think she has had this for about a year.
Please don't let it happen to you, life is truly fragile and precious.
Thank you all.

PS, She wanted to say hi Mrs. Catwho

So that's the disturbance in the force I felt. Smiley: frown

This is one of those rare situations where I have trouble coming up with something to say in response, so I can only wish you the best <3
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#29 Feb 25 2013 at 1:18 AM Rating: Decent
Extremely sorry to hear. RaiseIII was one of the best posters on here, very helpful and informative and I know she will be missed.

Best wishes!
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That is truly a totally inappropriate metaphor.

@RaiseIII: I hope Cindy is as comfortable as possible, given the circumstances, I'm sure you're giving her all the support you possibly can.
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